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Every kind of Christian woman—conservative, moderate, liberal, suburbanite, city dweller, lover of liturgy, lover of charismatic worship, egalitarian, complementarian, single, or married—models and teaches something about God to the next generation. I have seen firsthand how difficult it has become for women across the generations to share deeply from their hearts, but I’ve got good news: I’ve also witnessed powerful transformations in women’s hearts when we finally do. For more than fifteen years I’ve spoken with all kinds of women who love God and want to make a difference by bringing God glory through their ministries, jobs, and families. In my conversations and prayers with them, we always come back to the condition of their hearts—something that is holding them back from deeply loving the younger women in their lives.
These seemingly negative ideas of themselves or the ways they are being perceived can hold them back from sharing their faith out loud. I was there once too. For many years I did what many saw as “godly” work. I prayed, led retreats, met with younger women, and wrote Bible studies. I was always surprised and thankful when I was asked to minister, whether to twelve hundred people or to one person. However, during that time, I became overwhelmed by empathy for others and myself; I felt it was too much to bear. That’s when God lured my heart to meditate on Psalm 119 for more than eighteen months. It’s a psalm that gave me space to renew my thinking and heal my heart. God knew I was longing for something richer, deeper, fuller to counter the losses and disappointments I felt for myself and for others.

PamHeadshotAs the poetic words from the psalm mirrored my own sufferings and doubts, God gave me what I really wanted: more of him. His Word became my safest place; his presence through his Word was closer to me than my own tumultuous emotions, circumstances, successes, or failures. I discovered that no emotion or thought was beyond his reach. After I spent months praying through the psalm and bowing my mind to the Spirit, God removed my heart of stone and gave me a singleness of heart that transformed my relationships and my service to him.

A Friend in Me

A Friend in Me

A Friend in Me: How to Be a Safe Haven for Other Women

Young women long for relational connection with women further ahead of them on the journey. Yet, without realizing it, many of us tend to distance ourselves from those in younger generations. Can we really have close relationships with women who have different thoughts on church, different experiences with family, and different ways of talking about God? Where do we start?

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